Happiness is Kinetic

Happiness is Kinetic

 

We all chase it 

We want happiness

We spend so much of our lives chasing this one goal, that seems to slip through our hands like the sands of time

 

Happiness is subjective

 

Nirvana to one is a warm summers day, toes in the sand, not a care in the world 

 

Nirvana to others is summiting a mountain, in the frigid cold, after weeks of walking

 

It is so subjective, and it is also Kinetic

 

As a child we seek the happiness, in the form of Lego blocks and tee-ball

 

As we grow older it is grades in school, winning a championship

 

Beyond then is getting a job, buying house, raising a family, starting a business

 

We are all chasing the same thing, however our end result is different, and ever changing

 

Today happiness is going for a run, tomorrow making smart financial moves

 

We all seek it, crave it, and spend our whole lives seeking it

 

Yet it changes every day and in every which way

 

Goals are attainable, yet happiness almost seems unattainable

 

As something so constantly changing, and by the time you reach what you think is your end goal, something new arises 

 

That taste that is always out of reach, that fruit that we cannot touch, the end result that never tastes as sweet as we expected

 

Accept that you will achieve goals, but never happiness, because what we seek changes with the times and the weather, and maybe one day we will get a taste, although it may be for a few moments, but a taste of achieving happiness, before it changes into our next goal.  

 

Complete happiness is unattainable, but moments of nirvana are the best we can do on this crazy ride we call life

Brain Stew

Where do we go to dump our mind…

 

With the tedious operations of everyday life, the monotony, the trivial pursuits of a 9-5

 

The work for so many years, the give your life to a corporation or cause that you might not necessarily believe in, but that pads your wallet and keeps your family fed

 

How many of us forgo the dreams and loves of life, to compromise for the paycheck to maintain order…

 

 For how many truly realize their dreams.   For how many truly realize their own ambitions and passions. 

 

For in this everyday life, however normal or chaotic, we all seek to make sense of exactly how we feel. Exactly our emotions.  Exactly how to piece together this never-ending and ever-changing puzzle of life.  

 

The chaotic conglomerate of thoughts an ideas…..

 

We all have our own versions of Brain Stew……

Where do dreams go to die?

Where do dreams go to die.

We create, we believe we plan nad we execute

But where do our dreams die

 

Do they diie in an idea we feel is too outlandish?

 

Do they die because they weigh too much, stacked upon dealing with our life?

 

Do they die because instead we choose a pipe, a bottle, something more carnal, a momentary sense of satisfaction?

 

It is easy to dream, and it is easy for those dreams to die.  

 

It is hard…

To execute

To put dreams before others

To put dreams before yourself

 

It is hard to put these momentary feelings of nirvana to the side to achieve a much higher dream.  

 

Whether 5 or 50, to be Batman or own a business, to lose 50 pounds or to climb Mt. Everest, we all have dreams.

 

But how easy it is to give in to temptation and complacency and forget these dreams.  

 

So, do not have dreams….

Have small goals, fight complacency, and after enough small goals, your big goals will be yours.  

 

-Lil Kevy

When death comes a’knockin

We sit in fear

We sit there in worry

What does tomorrow hold?

What does this next move, next decision make, what does it mean?

 

Life is a funny thing

Many people feel as if they are not in control

However, we are all in control

We make decisions every day, every moment

 

We accept lies and truths

 

We justify our actions to others and ourselves

 

They say there are three face’s

One is who most people see you as

The second is the face with those whom you hold closest hold you

And lastly is you behind closed doors

 

Most people will never truly know the true you

 

Who you are at the darkest hour or brightest light?

 

Who you are in the bliss of day or the deepest dark of night?

 

But who you are is controlled by you?

 

When you are happy or sad, mad or glad, it is controlled by you

 

On this crazy ride of that we call life, remember that we hold the reigns.  

 

A year before my grandmother passed, we had a very frank conversation.

 

At 92 years old, she said she was ready to go.  

 

As a 24-year-old guy, I understood.  For age is an excuse when it comes to life experience.  Some are 19 and understand this world as a 55-year-old and vice versa.  Age and life experience are two very different things.  

 

I looked my grandmother back into her eyes, and said I understood.  She has lived her life to the fullest, and for a long time.  She accepted her life

 

What more can you ask, when death comes knocking?

 

For when death rings your doorbell after a full life, do you huddle behind a door and pretend it’s not there, or do you open the door, allow it to take a seat, and offer it a cold drink.

 

We should not fear death, but welcome it when it is our time.  

 

For one who cannot accept that it is there time, cannot accept the fact that they have not experienced enough.  

 

This crazy ride we call life, if you were to pass tomorrow, what is your legacy.  What was your life.  What was your mark

 

If it was no mark, then make one.  

 

If there was no impact, then strive for one.  

 

We live but one life, so when the devil comes knocking, today or thirty years from now, make sure you are ready to go, and the book of life you live is one worth reading.  

Why do we escape reality?

Why do we sleep

Why do we drink

Why do we smoke

Why do we binge eat

Why do we sleep around

We do these things, to escape reality. We live so much of our lives hating our own realities.

When you sleep, you sleep to recover, but you sleep to make the time go by. So that maybe when you wake up, your life will be better. Maybe you’ll have a dream or just wake up rested, but you are waking up in your same reality.

When you drink, you skew your own reality. Putting yourself in an altered mental state, it makes you feel better about your current situation. It skews your reality into somehow making it bearable for you, as long as you can maintain a buzz.

Binge eating, sleeping around etc are all things that make you feel good….momentarily. It’s a band-aid on the overall hemorrhaging wound. It does nothing in the long run, and is usually more detrimental to you then successfull.

Why don’t you start today by owning your reality?

Why don’t you start to own your reality everyday?

Get after it

-Lil Kevy

Awards don’t make Eulogies, but people do

I don’t care about awards. I don’t care about trophies, plaques, or certificates. It’s fun to go out and bust your buddies for what you have and they don’t *cough-Dan check out my German Armed Forces Proficency Badge* but at the end of the day, it’s a ribbon, or a coin or a plaque that sits on a wall or a rack and slowly wastes away.

Some people are in it for the awards; they want to be known, and they want to display their accomplishments; different strokes for different folks. But awards are trivial, material things. Very few material things hold a lot of meaning. Most we can do without.

If you don’t know what I mean, go live out of a backpack for a few weeks and you realize how much you really need in life.

There is something though, that is better than any reward I’ve received.

As I wrap up my time in Michigan, I did receive a small award for my time here. Coins in the military have been a long-standing tradition, and are still a very cool thing to this day. But the real award I got wasn’t a certificate or a coin; it was from the people I worked with.

It was at 0200 when my eyes were bleeding from reading another training document and working with QC’ing. It was grabbing a co-worker a coffee when they didn’t ask for it, but surely needed it. It was asking what I could do to help, and doing quality work when someone wasn’t able to delegate themselves.

The real reward was that person standing next to you, ready to take on the next task and a silent acknowledgement of “we are in this together, let’s get it done.”

And at the culmination, the person I worked for turned around and said “Sir, you’re good people.”

A simple phrase, but one that carries more meaning and recognition than any material thing.

The acknowledgment of not being a good soldier or officer, but being a good human being. And I would much rather have those who matter realize the good people, as opposed to those who don’t matter recognize me.

When it’s all said and done, although grim, I like to think of my eulogy sometimes and what someone would say. And at that eulogy, they don’t remember awards, they remember the man.

-Lil Kevy

Data doesn’t lie, so don’t lie to your goals.

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The game of telephone, is simply data management. It starts at the source, with quality data, and then, through multiple steps in the process, gets to the end user who has something completely different to say.

Data is simply information, and data management is simply the maintaining of that information.

For years, I have worked in some form of data management. Whether it was in college, working in data collection, entry and sorting, to then working at a hospital in sorting data and maintaining my own database on safety events.

Very quickly, you learn that data runs the world.

With this experience, it now seems trivial when I look back at the goals I have been trying to achieve and how I have not been applying or tracking the data in it.

“I want to lose weight, I want to save money, I don’t know where my money goes, and I have my goal and I don’t know how to reach it”

All these simple goals and questions can be answered by looking at data, and then adjusting your behavior of the data.

Even if you know where things go, such as wasting your money on eating out all the time, seeing the hard data of exactly how much you spend, will maybe help jolt you awake! Even better, it shows you how re-allocating your funds can further another goal you have.

But it doesn’t just work for money, it works for other goals too.

By using the data you already have, and then projecting and tweaking your future decisions based off of this information, will actually allow you to accomplish your goal.

So get out there, lay out your goals, and get after it.

-Lil Kevy